10 Myths
Domestic Violence

Domestic violence, stands as one of the most under-addressed and misunderstood issues today. The prevailing myths surrounding these tragedies actively stand in the way of bringing the perpetrators to justice. As if that was not an already disconcerting side effect, many of them also perpetuate negative mindsets which park blame more on the victim than the victimizer. By shaming those who bear the brunt of the pain, men and women alike who find themselves on the receiving end of abuse do not seek out the help they need in order to live a safe existence away from their tormenters. Promoting an education and understanding of why domestic abuse happens and is allowed to continue stands as the only way to truly put a dent in the practice and prevent repeated assaults.

1. Only women are victims of domestic violence.
1Domestic violence does occur against men, though the majority of reported cases in the United Kingdom usually involve the victimization of women.  In any time frame, a small % of nonfatal violence reports list males over the age of 12 as victims with the offenders also as intimate partners.

If more men stood up and took legal action against their assailants – male and female alike – it would inspire others towards opening up and giving the UK a glimpse into the real depths of the epidemic.

2. Domestic violence occurs only in lower-class, uneducated, or minority households.
Domestic violence does not discriminate against socio-economic, educational, age, sexual preference, or racial lines any more than it does gender. It can happen to anyone, anywhere, at any time. Like the female-male discrepancy, many of the misconceptions regarding statistics do not provide an accurate picture of how widespread the issue truly reaches.

3. Instances of domestic violence are actually quite rare.
Trending data shows males and females alike reporting more incidents to the police, which signifies either an increase in domestic violence or more individuals learning that the best route towards escaping fear lay with coming forward and letting the criminal justice system intervene. Because so many victims remain too scared to confront the issue externally, it is impossible to gauge just how frequently it occurs.

4. Domestic violence is usually a one-time-only occurrence.
In cases of convictions for nonfatal intimate partner violence had a history of prior abuse towards the victim. While some instances of domestic violence only involve one incident, men and women alike who remain in abusive situations run a far higher risk of succumbing to repeated attacks than those electing to press charges after the first offence.

5. Victims of domestic violence usually provoke the abuse.

A ‘blame the victim’ philosophy surrounds many violent crimes, with fingers pointed towards men and women alike who find themselves on the receiving end of abuse questioned almost as intensively as their assailants.

6. Substance abuse is the root cause of domestic disturbances.
Drugs and alcohol amplify aggression, and many men and women abuse their spouses, boyfriends, girlfriends, or other intimate partners while under the influence. However, not all individuals with a substance abuse habit engage in violent behaviour, nor do all instances of domestic abuse involve drugs or alcohol.

7. Domestic violence is an issue that only needs addressing between the people involved.
3The fact that female victims and male victims fail to report their abuse at the hands of an intimate partner because they believe the matter is best handled privately only serves to solidify this potentially dangerous myth. Many who witness or overhear domestic violence disputes do not phone in reports to the police, believing the matter is best settled between the partners instead.

8. Improving a broken relationship can stop a batterer.
In believing that working on the relationship between abuser and victim makes for a solution to end abuse, the mindset that the abused remains somehow at fault becomes sadly reinforced.  They need handling by the proper authorities if they harbour any sincere hope to reform, and punishment may involve jail time and intense psychotherapy to stave off repeat offences.

9. Victims stay in violent situations because they secretly enjoy being beaten.
Another corollary to the blame the victim perspective labels repeat recipients of domestic abuse as masochists who stay in violent situations because they enjoy the pain. Truthfully, most victims do not leave their abusers due to manipulation. Fearing legal repercussions, assailants oftentimes lead their prey to believe themselves entirely worthy of a beating.

10. Domestic violence is a side effect of a patriarchal society or filial structure.
Many perceive domestic abuse as a negative aspect of living within a patriarchal society or a family where men dominate over the women. Studies have shown that surrounding cultural climates and social structures have little effect on instances of domestic violence.

Because so many individuals adhere to the myths regarding domestic violence as the steadfast truth, thousands of men and women every year become trapped inside dangerous – even deadly – situations. They end up shamed and manipulated into staying with and occasionally defending those who hurt and threaten their happiness and safety. Promoting an understanding of how these potentially fatal relationships operate helps to save lives and remove violent individuals from mainstream society and into the proper detention centres.

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for your self or your Children.
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